everyone gets mad....
I get mad. You get mad. Your Mom gets mad. Your Dad gets mad. Hey, even God gets mad. Let’s face it, at one time or another EVERYBODY gets mad! Anger is a normal human emotion and it is the way that your subconscious mind releases mental and emotional pressure but sometimes this normal psychological function can run amok and lead you astray. Getting angry is normal, letting anger get the best of you is not. So how do you know if your anger is getting out of control and what can you do about it if you’re raging? Surprisingly enough recognizing and managing anger is relatively easy, here’s how!
Your anger is out of control if…
* you find yourself getting angry at everything that inconveniences you, annoys you or otherwise gets in the way of what you want to be doing,
* it leads you to act out aggressively or violently as in yelling, ranting, hitting, shoving or plotting revenge,
* it consumes you long after the event has passed, if you dwell on the things that make you angry then you’re in trouble because normal anger is only a temporary emotional response to unsettling eternal stimuli,
* things that didn’t used to make you angry are suddenly major issues worthy of a rant, this does not apply to times when you have suppressed normal anger only to times that anger really isn’t merited, for example when somebody gets a higher grade than you or when a person is taking too long in the bathroom,
* you find yourself doing self destructive things to cope with your angry feelings, such as reckless driving, hazardous recreational activities, physical fighting, drugs and alcohol or, unsafe or random sexual activity.
You can manage that anger by…
* recognizing the difference between an annoyance or inconvenience and a bona fide reason to get mad - somebody hurting you, hurting somebody you care for or damaging your property are all good reasons to get mad; somebody “disrespecting” you, getting in your way, slowing you down, being luckier than you, or doing something better than you do it are not reasonable causes of anger,
* taking a deep breath, stepping away from the situation and asking yourself “Why am I really mad?”, often people misdirect anger caused by a valid yet bigger issue on to everyday annoyances and inconveniences,
* know your triggers, if there are certain things that you know bother you or that you can’t accept know what they are, take steps to avoid them, and play out an appropriate reaction in your head when you're feeling calm to train your mind to react that way when the problem arises in real life,
* plan your time wisely, one of the most common anger stressors is poor time management, when you’re in a rush and something slows you down even more you are very likely to react in anger, the simplest way to avoid this is to exercise effective time management,
* exercising regularly, it’s true that exercise is an excellent way to de-stress body and mind, people who exercise regularly are less likely to overreact to annoyances and inconveniences,
* talk it out, reacting in anger often causes the reasoning center of the brain to shut off for a time and the way you can turn it back on is to talk rather than act out when anger takes hold, it may sound crazy but taking a few minutes to gather your thoughts and speaking them out loud can do wonders to diffuse an angry situation.
by Jessica Stevenson
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Anger Management for Teenagers
Anger Management for Teenagers
Overview
Teenagers who do not have the skills to manage their anger are likely to cause trouble for themselves and those around them. They usually have problems at home and at school. They may end up having problems with the police. If teenagers lack the ability to keep cool and manage their interactions, they may experience social withdrawal, academic underachievement, bullying, fighting and suicidal behaviors. Anger management techniques can teach young people how to change their behavior and to change their lives for the better, and the same techniques can help parents know what to do when tempers flare.
The Facts
Anger happens when people feel that something or someone has violated them. It's a normal human reaction that may occur from time to time. Teenagers with anger management problems respond to real or supposed grievances in excessive ways. They may be intimidating or outrightly aggressive. They may be impulsive and lack self-control. Such teenagers often misinterpret social cues, overreacting in ways that are likely to cause damage to people or property. Often they feel their only choice is aggression.
Parent Involvement
Learning how to manage anger and how to make good choices requires commitment, practice and patience from teens, together with their parents. They can practice positive social strategies, work on problematic behaviors and pursue successful outcomes at home, at school and at large. There are quite a few structured anger management programs for children and teenagers (see Resources). These programs help parents develop their listening skills and encourage improvements in their teen's communication and cooperation.
Techniques & Skills
Most anger management programs have several components: Social skills training encourages appropriate behavior in social situations. Coping skills training gets teenagers to explore effective ways to deal with anger and frustration. Problem-solving skills training helps teens learn to assess situations and to make good choices. Cognitive skills training helps identify patterns of relating, thinking and behaving that help or hinder, and how to make changes based on those patterns. Relaxation training teaches how to relax and let go of angry feelings.
Warning Signs
Many teens and families are able to work things out on their own, but some may need added supervision and support. If your teen seems to be angry most of the time, seems to have problems getting along with many different people and in many different settings, or is physically or verbally abusive, contact your local mental health professionals for further help. Other red flags you may notice include frequent fighting, cruelty to animals, property damage, using drugs and alcohol, strong interest in guns or other weapons, and gang affiliations.
Benefits
While not every teen has serious problems with anger, all teens benefit when they learn healthy ways to deal with their emotions. They gain increased self-awareness, better self-control, greater confidence and competence, and empathy and acceptance for themselves and others.
Anger Management for Teenagers
Overview
Teenagers who do not have the skills to manage their anger are likely to cause trouble for themselves and those around them. They usually have problems at home and at school. They may end up having problems with the police. If teenagers lack the ability to keep cool and manage their interactions, they may experience social withdrawal, academic underachievement, bullying, fighting and suicidal behaviors. Anger management techniques can teach young people how to change their behavior and to change their lives for the better, and the same techniques can help parents know what to do when tempers flare.
The Facts
Anger happens when people feel that something or someone has violated them. It's a normal human reaction that may occur from time to time. Teenagers with anger management problems respond to real or supposed grievances in excessive ways. They may be intimidating or outrightly aggressive. They may be impulsive and lack self-control. Such teenagers often misinterpret social cues, overreacting in ways that are likely to cause damage to people or property. Often they feel their only choice is aggression.
Parent Involvement
Learning how to manage anger and how to make good choices requires commitment, practice and patience from teens, together with their parents. They can practice positive social strategies, work on problematic behaviors and pursue successful outcomes at home, at school and at large. There are quite a few structured anger management programs for children and teenagers (see Resources). These programs help parents develop their listening skills and encourage improvements in their teen's communication and cooperation.
Techniques & Skills
Most anger management programs have several components: Social skills training encourages appropriate behavior in social situations. Coping skills training gets teenagers to explore effective ways to deal with anger and frustration. Problem-solving skills training helps teens learn to assess situations and to make good choices. Cognitive skills training helps identify patterns of relating, thinking and behaving that help or hinder, and how to make changes based on those patterns. Relaxation training teaches how to relax and let go of angry feelings.
Warning Signs
Many teens and families are able to work things out on their own, but some may need added supervision and support. If your teen seems to be angry most of the time, seems to have problems getting along with many different people and in many different settings, or is physically or verbally abusive, contact your local mental health professionals for further help. Other red flags you may notice include frequent fighting, cruelty to animals, property damage, using drugs and alcohol, strong interest in guns or other weapons, and gang affiliations.
Benefits
While not every teen has serious problems with anger, all teens benefit when they learn healthy ways to deal with their emotions. They gain increased self-awareness, better self-control, greater confidence and competence, and empathy and acceptance for themselves and others.
Anger Management for Teenagers
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